In some ways I feel sorrier for the children that only have FAE (Fetal Alcohol Effect) as opposed to those that have FAS (Fetal Alcohol Syndrome.) Why would I say something so strange? Think about it for a minute, if your child has FAS, anybody can look at your child and tell that something isn’t quite right. If a child looks somewhat abnormal, people tend to lower their expectation for that child. That in turn can make life somewhat easier for the affected child and the parents of the child.

However, a child who has FAE tends to look completely... more

She bosses people around, mostly her brothers and sisters, like you’d expect a teenager to do. They rarely, if ever listen to what she is telling them to do which may cause her to go into a tirade.

If she doesn’t like what I’m saying to her she is liable to raise her voice towards me and make a smart remark that I don’t think is very smart. Depending on my mood I’m liable to burst out laughing or yell; “Walk away from me now!”

She really likes to wear dresses and nylons to church and some of the girls have commented on her legs. Well... more

I’m the worst mom in the whole world. Have you ever had one of those days? I lost my temper, yelled at the kids and basically acted like an idiot. How many times had my daughters’ therapist asked me the same question, “Would you get angry at a quadriplegic for not getting up and running when you told them to?” “Of course you wouldn’t, and you can’t get angry at your daughters for not remembering how to do, or what they did yesterday.” Then he’d go into the whole spider web theory again. You’ve probably heard it too.

A child with... more