I’m following an online conversation among adoptive parents. It all started with the announcement that one mom has an acquaintance who is looking to “rehome” their newly adopted child. There has been a flood of opinion about adoptive parents who would decide that they can’t/won’t parent a child, presumably because of his/her challenges.

There are parents who are totally appalled that these parents would “give up” on the child so quickly. There are others who hop into the fray announcing that they themselves have either dissolved an adoption or given it... more

I caught wind of a disturbing discussion yesterday, one in which some prospective adoptive families are seeking to adopt internationally are looking toward adopting children through disruptions as a “cheaper, easier and faster” route to adoption. I did a complete double take, but yes, I had read correctly, the consensus of this group was that a simpler route to adopting a child was to find a family who had brought home a child and “changed their minds”.

I’m dumbfounded at this logic. I know several people who have adopted children through disruptions. In fact, many bloggers on this... more

My blog-mate, Julie, did a great post last week about parenting her special needs adopted child. In the post, Either You’re a Saint or You Asked for This, Julie talked about people thinking that she, and other adoptive parents of special needs children, are saints for parenting their special needs child. For those of us with special needs adopted children, it comes down to, what choice do we have, other than to parent our child to the best... more

Since I’m an advocate for special needs adoption I have my favorite web sites that check on almost everyday. Not that I’m considering more children, but I know people who are, so I like to keep updated on who’s available. When my husband and I were looking for an infant girl to adopt we registered with several agencies that place special needs. One of those agencies we registered with is a nonprofit organization called CHASK,

Lately, I’ve noticed a disturbing pattern... more