IEP – The Meeting Finally!!!!

December 10th, 2013

3955153817_6095f44e53_q[1]So we finally went to the meeting for my daughters IEP. It has been about a month since I last wrote about it but I was absolutely shocked at the fact of how the teachers would not take responsibility for their actions. It seems as though they were trying to blame everything on my daughter and the fact that she has a disability but, without saying it because obviously they can't. The IEP meeting started with reading her goals and it was funny because they started doing all of these assessment tests to try to show that my daughter was making a lot of progress. I of course have been monitoring my daughters education and I have a tutor working with… [more]

IEP – It’s Time For A Meeting

September 27th, 2013

8314929977_28fd740070_qMy blossoming fifth-grader is excited to be in her class this year. Last year, when she started school she started towards the middle of the school year. This is her first year being adopted and also not having to move around to new schools. We went to the open house and I loved the teacher that they had chosen for her. The teacher has a lot of structure in her class and seeing that my daughter has ADHD and Borderline Intellectual Functioning this class, seemed to be perfect. We have received a progress report and my daughter is doing great. She has four B’s and two A’s , which is a far cry from the F’s and I do mean all… [more]

I Forgot – Part 2 “The Plan”

September 16th, 2013

7109397617_23cd590554_qSo in one my previous post I talked about how my daughter who has ADHD is struggling with forgetfulness. I asked my daughter to come up with a plan to help her remember to gather her things at school and not loose things. The purpose of allowing my daughter to come up with her own plan is so she can learn that while she may have a weakness for something that she is struggling with, she can learn how to cope with it. I have tried to give her my ideas and thoughts on ways to help, but she seems to of course forget, so I wanted to give her the opportunity to plan. I told her that whatever plan that she… [more]


September 1st, 2013

Blog Post 6 - 100My child is diagnosed with Borderline Intellectual Functioning (BIF) and ADHD; inattentive type. My child does not struggle with hyperactivity rather she tends to veer off and daydream which causes her to miss sometimes important pieces of information. Just in case you don't know what BIF is, it is when the person has below average IQ. The person's IQ is not low enough to be mentally retarded but is not high enough to be considered of having an average or normal range IQ. For her she has a hard time learning new concepts and mastering multi-step instructions. She processes information slower than the average child however she can master the concept over time. The best I can describe… [more]

It’s Not Too Late To Compensate!

August 21st, 2013

img001My daughter is diagnosed with Borderline Intellectual Functioning(BIF) coupled with ADHD. For those of you who don't know what Borderline Intellectual Functioning(BIF) is it is when the person has below average IQ. The person's IQ is not low enough to be mentally retarded but is not high enough to be considered of having a average or normal range IQ. Essentially the person hovers in the middle between mental retardation and normalcy. As for my child she does not look different and she does not talk different however she cannot process information that requires more than one step easily and must be retaught over and over again before she actually will learn the information. She would be classified as a "slow learner".  While… [more]

First the Anger, Now the Shame

July 28th, 2013

195411_boys_will_be_boysFrom day one, the counselor has been trying to educate us that getting angry at our kids just doesn't work. I am theoretically willing to stipulate to such a position in the comfy position of her loveseat while my child is coloring happily at my feet. It's another matter entirely at 2:00 a.m. and the boys are playing Play Station upstairs when they're supposed to be asleep. Yet like Chinese water torture, eventually a groove is etched. I dragged my very tired self upstairs to see why the light was on, and was outwardly "delighted" to discover that they had so much energy, they could start cleaning the laundry room and bathroom -- RIGHT THEN -- including mopping the floor. In the… [more]

Progress With Peanut Butter

April 27th, 2013

peanut butter I'm not sure what special needs my ten-year-old has. He was two-plus when we adopted him, so by definition, he has "special needs." Clearly he's never met a rule he wanted to follow or a boundary he wanted to respect. But he's so cute. At first the therapist thought he was just spoiled, as in, you've been distracted by the problems of his older siblings, and he's so cute, he's been allowed to get away with too much for too long. That was hard to believe. I'm a very strict mom. My own mother called me Captain von Trapp without the whistle. She meant it in the nicest possible way I'm sure. So initially we worked on the temper tantrums and disobedience… [more]

Adopting a Child Living with Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder

November 21st, 2012

1319861_children_crossingFetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder (FASD) is an umbrella term used to describe a range of effects that can occur in a child whose mother consumed alcohol in the pregnancy. FASD occurs in all economic, racial and religious groups around the world. Not all individuals prenatally exposed to alcohol are necessarily affected. Yet, many have physical, learning, and/or sensory challenges that result in behavioral issues. Although similarities exist, no two individuals are affected the exact same way. It is considered a whole body disorder. It is a lifelong medical diagnosis that the child will not grow out of. Although there is much in the media describing isolated tragedies of living with FASD, there are also many, many stories of hope and success. There are over… [more]

In Search of a Behavior Program that Works

August 30th, 2011

1319861_children_crossingHaving three special needs kids, I have tried literally dozens of behavior programs over the years, but still haven't found anything that really works. The latest idea (from my next door neighbor) was to pay my 8-year-old a nickel every time he did something he was supposed to do and take a nickel away every time he failed to do something or did something naughty. That lasted about a week. It was great when Justin was getting the nickels, but when he lost a nickel, he became so upset and angry that it was worse than the naughty behavior that lost him the nickel in the first place. If I would tell him that he had lost a nickel for that behavior, it just… [more]

Practice Makes Perfect–at least for school

August 22nd, 2011

first day of school_rToday was the first day of school and after seven years of practice, I think we've almost got it. It's helpful to know your children well enough that you can anticipate their reactions and help them compensate for their weaknesses. I have one in high school, one in junior high and one in elementary school, all with different schedules, start times and finish times. It's a little bit like being in a Paris train station with the destinations, arrival and departure times whipping around the boards continuously. I knew Gavin (10th grade) was going to be very anxious until he actually got to school this morning, so I didn't worry too much about him trying to sleep all day yesterday, or… [more]