A Little Me Time Please!

October 29th, 2013
Categories: Parenting, Working Moms

10518420223_46df8ed0be_q[1]Parenting a child with special needs can prove to be quite difficult. In the middle of dealing with school, emotional needs, social needs, and family needs you can find yourself burnt out. I got home about 30 minutes earlier than I normally do and my husband and daughter hadn’t gotten home yet. I thought to myself, now is the time that I can get some stuff done before they arrive, but instead I sat down and enjoyed the quiet.  I wasn’t thinking of anything, nothing was on my mind. It just felt good to be in the peace and quiet of my own home.  During the day I go to work, and then go to the grocery store, to the post… [more]

I Forgot – Part 2 “The Plan”

September 16th, 2013

7109397617_23cd590554_qSo in one my previous post I talked about how my daughter who has ADHD is struggling with forgetfulness. I asked my daughter to come up with a plan to help her remember to gather her things at school and not loose things. The purpose of allowing my daughter to come up with her own plan is so she can learn that while she may have a weakness for something that she is struggling with, she can learn how to cope with it. I have tried to give her my ideas and thoughts on ways to help, but she seems to of course forget, so I wanted to give her the opportunity to plan. I told her that whatever plan that she… [more]

I Forgot!

September 7th, 2013

ADHDDealing with a child that has ADHD can be very difficult. As much as it is difficult for me, I am sure it is much more difficult for my child. I can't imagine what it must be like to not be able to sustain attention or feel as though your mind is going 100 miles per hour. Sometimes at her worst moments I have to remember that this is something that at times she cannot control. Fortunately for my daughter she does not suffer with hyperactivity rather she suffers with impulsiveness and has a rather short attention span. She tends to daydream and more often than not it is at the wrong time. She is also very forgetful and have to be reminded several… [more]

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September 1st, 2013

Blog Post 6 - 100My child is diagnosed with Borderline Intellectual Functioning (BIF) and ADHD; inattentive type. My child does not struggle with hyperactivity rather she tends to veer off and daydream which causes her to miss sometimes important pieces of information. Just in case you don't know what BIF is, it is when the person has below average IQ. The person's IQ is not low enough to be mentally retarded but is not high enough to be considered of having an average or normal range IQ. For her she has a hard time learning new concepts and mastering multi-step instructions. She processes information slower than the average child however she can master the concept over time. The best I can describe… [more]

Progress With Peanut Butter

April 27th, 2013

peanut butter I'm not sure what special needs my ten-year-old has. He was two-plus when we adopted him, so by definition, he has "special needs." Clearly he's never met a rule he wanted to follow or a boundary he wanted to respect. But he's so cute. At first the therapist thought he was just spoiled, as in, you've been distracted by the problems of his older siblings, and he's so cute, he's been allowed to get away with too much for too long. That was hard to believe. I'm a very strict mom. My own mother called me Captain von Trapp without the whistle. She meant it in the nicest possible way I'm sure. So initially we worked on the temper tantrums and disobedience… [more]

Adopting a Child Living with Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder

November 21st, 2012

1319861_children_crossingFetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder (FASD) is an umbrella term used to describe a range of effects that can occur in a child whose mother consumed alcohol in the pregnancy. FASD occurs in all economic, racial and religious groups around the world. Not all individuals prenatally exposed to alcohol are necessarily affected. Yet, many have physical, learning, and/or sensory challenges that result in behavioral issues. Although similarities exist, no two individuals are affected the exact same way. It is considered a whole body disorder. It is a lifelong medical diagnosis that the child will not grow out of. Although there is much in the media describing isolated tragedies of living with FASD, there are also many, many stories of hope and success. There are over… [more]

Fill ‘Er Up

March 5th, 2012

iStock_000014368547XSmallAccording to my brother, the Peace Corps got it right when they said it was “the toughest job you’ll ever love.”  But, I think the phrase could equally apply to motherhood. As an adoptive parent, I never experienced pregnancy and all the fun, pain, and wonder that comes along with it.  Instead, I adopted a daughter from Russia and another from Guatemala with all the fun, pain, and wonder that comes along with that. I love being a mother, but it is the toughest job I’ve ever had…without training.  As I watch them grow into beautiful young ladies, I am struck at how much work goes into raising them. Raising  “normal” child is difficult and challenging enough, but when a child has special needs, such… [more]

Monsters Incorporated

January 10th, 2012

Fur MonsterFor some time, Bunny has been experiencing a reoccurring nightmare.  She dreams monsters come in our house and eat our entire family, except for her.  She is left alone with no parents, no home, and no place to go. The dream follows the same script with a few variations.  Once the monsters burned the house down and roasted us inside.  They have tried smashing the house, but when they were unsuccessful, they went to our barn and ate all of the animals.  The rest of the dream is always the same, we end up dead and Bunny ends up alone. We’ve tried countless times to help Bunny with the dreams that leave her overtired and unsettled.  Once we talked her through a dream… [more]

Mothers and Daughters

September 22nd, 2011

iStock_000016018528XSmallSometimes I wonder if I am screwing up my kids or if they are screwing up me.  A part of me has always thought that somehow my mother’s issues became my issues, and as hard as I try not to be like my mother…I’ve become my mother.  Frankly, I think mothers are the reason therapists have jobs. So, as I raise my daughters, I worry how much my issues and neuroses have affected them.  Am I setting them up for years of therapy? Therapy around our house is commonplace.  For the last six years, one or all of us has seen a therapist on a fairly regular basis.  Therapy has helped us diagnosis, understand, and cope with our children’s reactive attachment disorder. It’s not just… [more]

Stress Fracture

September 6th, 2011

iStock_000016022991XSmallI once had a stress fracture in college.  I was teaching five aerobics classes a week, on a concrete floor, in thin leather dance shoes.  I looked really cute and fit, but the combination was bad for my leg. Stress fractures aren’t an actual break in the bone and you can’t really see them on an x-ray, but they are incredibly painful and if not treated, they can create more complex problems later. I have a stress fracture right now, but it isn’t in my bones. It is in my marriage. I adore and love my husband and I know he feels the same about me, but after years of dealing with two children with reactive attachment disorder (RAD), our relationship is suffering from the stress. My… [more]