Comments on: Does Your Adopted Child Lack Impulse Control? http://special-needs.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/does-your-adopted-child-lack-impulse-con Contains information on various special needs from the unique perspective of the adoptive parents of special children. Thu, 15 Oct 2009 23:27:18 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Sunbonnet Sue http://special-needs.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/does-your-adopted-child-lack-impulse-con/comment-page-1#comment-2014 Sunbonnet Sue Fri, 23 Nov 2007 15:06:34 +0000 http://parenting-sp.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/11/21/does-your-adopted-child-lack-impulse-con#comment-2014 my little boy has zero impulse control, interestingly related to his ADHD. He has not been DX'd with FAS or FASD. There is (reportedly) no alcohol involvement from his pre-natal history, no way of knowing the accuracy of that report. But when he was tested to measure how much impulse control he had, it came back at 0%. That was in third grade. Thankfully, with the correct dosage of concerta, he now has impulse control within the normal range and his abilities in this area are gaining ground. <br /> <br /> Your credit system sounds like a great tool, Julia. my little boy has zero impulse control, interestingly related to his ADHD. He has not been DX’d with FAS or FASD. There is (reportedly) no alcohol involvement from his pre-natal history, no way of knowing the accuracy of that report. But when he was tested to measure how much impulse control he had, it came back at 0%. That was in third grade. Thankfully, with the correct dosage of concerta, he now has impulse control within the normal range and his abilities in this area are gaining ground.

Your credit system sounds like a great tool, Julia.

]]> By: John http://special-needs.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/does-your-adopted-child-lack-impulse-con/comment-page-1#comment-2013 John Fri, 23 Nov 2007 04:45:15 +0000 http://parenting-sp.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/11/21/does-your-adopted-child-lack-impulse-con#comment-2013 I wonder if that isn't just a built in part of FAS. My 22 yo has very poor inpulse control, and yes, he has enjoyed the Sheriff's hospitality a number of times. Directing traffic on a busy street and dancing in the street made absolute sense to him, but not the responding officers. Like you say Rachel, they seem impervious to any attempted instruction in that area. Today, I limit myself to 'Wow, that didn't work very well did it?'. He does seem to pick up bits and pieces, but at his pace. John I wonder if that isn’t just a built in part of FAS. My 22 yo has very poor inpulse control, and yes, he has enjoyed the Sheriff’s hospitality a number of times. Directing traffic on a busy street and dancing in the street made absolute sense to him, but not the responding officers. Like you say Rachel, they seem impervious to any attempted instruction in that area. Today, I limit myself to ‘Wow, that didn’t work very well did it?’. He does seem to pick up bits and pieces, but at his pace. John

]]> By: Julia Fuller http://special-needs.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/does-your-adopted-child-lack-impulse-con/comment-page-1#comment-2012 Julia Fuller Fri, 23 Nov 2007 00:15:24 +0000 http://parenting-sp.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/11/21/does-your-adopted-child-lack-impulse-con#comment-2012 Babyblock, I too appreciate your input. I applaud your efforts in choosing to correct your life. It gives me hope for my daughter's future.<br /> Rachel-I always appreciate your honesty and the way you personalize your input as opposed to finger pointing. <br /> Hugs - Julia Babyblock, I too appreciate your input. I applaud your efforts in choosing to correct your life. It gives me hope for my daughter’s future.
Rachel-I always appreciate your honesty and the way you personalize your input as opposed to finger pointing.
Hugs – Julia

]]> By: condo-mom http://special-needs.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/does-your-adopted-child-lack-impulse-con/comment-page-1#comment-2011 condo-mom Thu, 22 Nov 2007 17:41:22 +0000 http://parenting-sp.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/11/21/does-your-adopted-child-lack-impulse-con#comment-2011 babyblock --<br /> <br /> Thank you for your story. It helps to hear from an adult who has struggled with the effects of fasd. Gives me a longer term persepective on my daughter's strengths and needs. And helps keep me away from cynicism and discouragement.<br /> <br /> Happy Thanksgiving -- Stay Strong -- Rachel<br /> babyblock –

Thank you for your story. It helps to hear from an adult who has struggled with the effects of fasd. Gives me a longer term persepective on my daughter’s strengths and needs. And helps keep me away from cynicism and discouragement.

Happy Thanksgiving — Stay Strong — Rachel

]]> By: babyblock http://special-needs.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/does-your-adopted-child-lack-impulse-con/comment-page-1#comment-2010 babyblock Thu, 22 Nov 2007 13:48:15 +0000 http://parenting-sp.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/11/21/does-your-adopted-child-lack-impulse-con#comment-2010 I was adopted at 3 days old. Im 47 now and didnt find out my bio. mom was a drinker till I started my search when I was 17. It answered alot of questions though. Throughout much of my growing up years noone could explain much of my behavior.I was constanly being punished at school for what teachers assumed was me not paying attention.In actuality, I was way ahead of everyone but couldnt retain much. I was very bright, yet couldnt pass a test in school no matter how hard I tried. I would steal from my parents for no reason. I was pretty much self taught through high school because I refused to actually go to school. To this day I battle the urge to do things for no reason, but my intellect tells me not too and now that I know what Im fighting(FAS), I dont. I was never diagnosed with fetal alcohol syndrome and if I do have it (which is likely) it is a mild case of it. My bio. brothers have it way worse, from there actions to the facial "tells" and very bad alcoholism, which ,thank God, I have avoided. None of us have ever met our mother, yet the beat goes on. But FAS is something that never goes away. But I do think it is something a child can learn to control once they understand what they have. In a case such as FAS sometimes knowing youre loved just isnt enough. I was adopted at 3 days old. Im 47 now and didnt find out my bio. mom was a drinker till I started my search when I was 17. It answered alot of questions though. Throughout much of my growing up years noone could explain much of my behavior.I was constanly being punished at school for what teachers assumed was me not paying attention.In actuality, I was way ahead of everyone but couldnt retain much. I was very bright, yet couldnt pass a test in school no matter how hard I tried. I would steal from my parents for no reason. I was pretty much self taught through high school because I refused to actually go to school. To this day I battle the urge to do things for no reason, but my intellect tells me not too and now that I know what Im fighting(FAS), I dont. I was never diagnosed with fetal alcohol syndrome and if I do have it (which is likely) it is a mild case of it. My bio. brothers have it way worse, from there actions to the facial “tells” and very bad alcoholism, which ,thank God, I have avoided. None of us have ever met our mother, yet the beat goes on. But FAS is something that never goes away. But I do think it is something a child can learn to control once they understand what they have. In a case such as FAS sometimes knowing youre loved just isnt enough.

]]> By: condo-mom http://special-needs.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/does-your-adopted-child-lack-impulse-con/comment-page-1#comment-2009 condo-mom Thu, 22 Nov 2007 10:53:48 +0000 http://parenting-sp.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/11/21/does-your-adopted-child-lack-impulse-con#comment-2009 Julia --<br /> <br /> It's lack of impulse control, but isn't it a lot of other things, too? At our house this sort of thing happens daily, also. I think it is lack of conscience (I should earn my credits honestly and not try to cheat), lack of judgment (Mom and Dad will know if I try to take 10 credits for a hug I didn't give), and lack of cause-effect understanding (I can have $3 and a candy bar if I leave my credits alone and don't try to cheat), as well as lack of impulse control.<br /> <br /> Unfortunately, I am at a loss to teach those things. Again, it often seems that I am in the same boat as my daughter: she does not seem to learn from life experience (and certainly not from example), and neither do I. I constantly try to teach common sense, cause-effect, consequences, and conscience, and I never learn my lesson that SHE is not working on those particular concepts at this time !!<br /> <br /> Rachel<br /> Julia –

It’s lack of impulse control, but isn’t it a lot of other things, too? At our house this sort of thing happens daily, also. I think it is lack of conscience (I should earn my credits honestly and not try to cheat), lack of judgment (Mom and Dad will know if I try to take 10 credits for a hug I didn’t give), and lack of cause-effect understanding (I can have $3 and a candy bar if I leave my credits alone and don’t try to cheat), as well as lack of impulse control.

Unfortunately, I am at a loss to teach those things. Again, it often seems that I am in the same boat as my daughter: she does not seem to learn from life experience (and certainly not from example), and neither do I. I constantly try to teach common sense, cause-effect, consequences, and conscience, and I never learn my lesson that SHE is not working on those particular concepts at this time !!

Rachel

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