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06/15/07

It’s True! Adopting Special Needs Children Can Make You Nuts

Posted by : Julia Fuller in Parenting Children with Special Needs Blog at 06:10 am , 487 words, 386 views  
Categories: Special Needs Adoption
teenbrainAn article yesterday in Reuters Health by Amy Norton said that people who live with chronic distress through their lives might end up with a mild cognitive impairment, characterized by persistent memory difficulties, like forgetting names or misplacing things. Eventually it can evolve into advanced dementia. Nearly15 percent of older adults may have a mild cognitive impairment, which may develop into Alzheimer's disease.

Research at Rush University Medical Center in Chicago involving 1,256 older men and women, who didn’t have a mental impairment at the beginning of the study, were 40 percent more likely to become mildly impaired over a 12 year period, if they were prone to distress. Researchers believe that personality traits, like neuroticism, are fairly stable during a person’s life.

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Because personality traits, including neuroticism, are believed to be mostly stable through life, a high score on the neuroticism scale is considered an indicator of how much mental suffering a person has had over the years. They aren’t certain why these people are more vulnerable to dementia and cognitive decline. However, researchers have seen changes in an animal’s brain, when it has been living under stressful conditions. Researchers were also able to lessen the animal’s distress using exercise and antidepressants.

The Encarta Dictionary, English (North America) edition describes distress as “mental suffering, for example, that is caused by grief, anxiety, or unhappiness. To make somebody extremely upset, anxious, or alarmed.”
Synonyms listed are “suffering, pain, sorrow, anguish, agony, grief, misery, concern, worry, upset, trouble, danger, difficulty, misfortune, afflict, torment.”

Finally, I know why I can no longer remember names, appointments or why I went upstairs! It was all those years of parenting children with reactive attachment disorder, passive aggressive disorder, bipolar disorder, fetal alcohol syndrome, etc.

Each time a teenager ran away from home I felt sorrow, anguish, grief, concern, worry, upset, anxious, and alarmed. When our daughter painted feces on the walls, I felt the same way plus afflicted and tormented. When our daughter killed animals, I felt all of these and I worried that we had put our family in danger by adopting her.

What about staying up all night with an infant experiencing drug withdrawals or an asthma attack. Not to mention all the years of worrying about what the future holds for our medically fragile child or our learning disabled child. What about the concern, worry, anxiety, difficulty, and grief that can be involved in negotiating an Individual Education Plan (IEP) or a 504c Plan for school.

I really think they should conduct a new study beginning with pre-adoptive or pre-foster families. Then follow up after they have parented special needs children for five years and ten years, to see what effect the years of stress have had on their mental abilities.
SOURCE: Neurology, June 12, 2007.

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Comment from: John [Member] Email
Julia, the results of that study might not be a good selling point for adopting older kids. I'm glad to know I'm not the only one that goes upstairs and has no idea why. I have sort of solved the name problem. If I am stressed, I simply call the offender by one of the boys names, if I get a strange look, I keep going till I get it right. The boys keep saying I'm old, now I know its them! John
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Comment from: Julie [Member] Email · http://special-needs.adoptionblogs.com/
Me too on that upstairs thing? I can't remember anyone's name All I know is that 9 years ago today I was much thinner and Super Dad had dark hair. I've gained weight and wrinkles...he's turned completely gray. Would this have happened anyway?

I don't know.

What were we talking about again, I've forgotten....

I'm going for a walk to the pharmacy for some SSRIs (only partially kidding!)
PermalinkPermalink 06/15/07 @ 18:01
Comment from: Faith Allen [Member] Email · http://hoping.adoptionblogs.com/
Glad to know it is not just me feeling nutty!!

- Faith
PermalinkPermalink 06/16/07 @ 18:09
Comment from: Cerise [Member] Email
I hope not. I haven't had a great home life but my grandmother lived just past a hundred and she had all her faculties intact (she fell one night and that was it). She was still sharp and pissed off and she had plenty to be pissed off about. She never forgot a thing but she did go selectively deaf though never with me.
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