Comments on: My FAS Child Can’t Stop Stealing http://special-needs.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/my-fas-child-can-t-stop-stealing Contains information on various special needs from the unique perspective of the adoptive parents of special children. Thu, 15 Oct 2009 23:27:18 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: darci http://special-needs.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/my-fas-child-can-t-stop-stealing/comment-page-1#comment-1003 darci Sat, 24 Nov 2007 22:33:30 +0000 http://parenting-sp.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/03/02/my-fas-child-can-t-stop-stealing#comment-1003 What age do kids with FAS usually begin stealing? I have twin boys and was just wondering. What age do kids with FAS usually begin stealing? I have twin boys and was just wondering.

]]> By: lmg1567 http://special-needs.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/my-fas-child-can-t-stop-stealing/comment-page-1#comment-1002 lmg1567 Tue, 03 Jul 2007 02:13:23 +0000 http://parenting-sp.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/03/02/my-fas-child-can-t-stop-stealing#comment-1002 I have a 13 year old son who sounds EXACTLY like your daughter. He's been in parochial school, public school and last year a very nice charter school. This past year was the absolute worst for stealing and lying. His teachers wouldn't believe how bad he was until he started stealing directly under their noses. He stole kids lunches every day in addition to eating his own very large lunch I packed. Thankfully the school didn't have a school lunch program or he would have run me into the poorhouse charging up all the junkfood he could eat. The year before last I got his report card and found out he was late to class 24 times in one marking period because after eating breakfast at home he was getting to school, going to the cafeteria and eating a free breakfast (they fell for his, "my mom won't feed me and I'm ever so hungry" line) which always made him late. It's amazing what he'll lie about. I've told him that at some point his discipline will be taken out of our hands and the police will be handling his stealing issues. He doesn't care in the slightest. He steals mainly food, he doesn't hoard it, just gorges on anything (including gum and cough drops). I pray for his future as it looks quite bleak. We'll be homeschooling from here on out so I'll need all the prayers I can get on that front! I have a 13 year old son who sounds EXACTLY like your daughter. He’s been in parochial school, public school and last year a very nice charter school. This past year was the absolute worst for stealing and lying. His teachers wouldn’t believe how bad he was until he started stealing directly under their noses. He stole kids lunches every day in addition to eating his own very large lunch I packed. Thankfully the school didn’t have a school lunch program or he would have run me into the poorhouse charging up all the junkfood he could eat. The year before last I got his report card and found out he was late to class 24 times in one marking period because after eating breakfast at home he was getting to school, going to the cafeteria and eating a free breakfast (they fell for his, “my mom won’t feed me and I’m ever so hungry” line) which always made him late. It’s amazing what he’ll lie about. I’ve told him that at some point his discipline will be taken out of our hands and the police will be handling his stealing issues. He doesn’t care in the slightest. He steals mainly food, he doesn’t hoard it, just gorges on anything (including gum and cough drops). I pray for his future as it looks quite bleak. We’ll be homeschooling from here on out so I’ll need all the prayers I can get on that front!

]]> By: Kelly http://special-needs.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/my-fas-child-can-t-stop-stealing/comment-page-1#comment-1001 Kelly Fri, 02 Mar 2007 16:47:21 +0000 http://parenting-sp.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/03/02/my-fas-child-can-t-stop-stealing#comment-1001 Prayers and blessings for you Holly. Fortunately, haven't lived that one yet.<br /> <br /> Julia- We have this same problem with our 13 year old. And since he has no cause and effect thinking, he doesn't get how if he DOESN'T steal for one day, that I don't have total trust in him again.<br /> <br /> We have explained this ad nauseum with no effect.<br /> <br /> We have never come up with an effective intervention or lesson, and it's something that bothers me less, but is still a trauma trigger point for me.<br /> <br /> Prayers and blessings to you as well. Prayers and blessings for you Holly. Fortunately, haven’t lived that one yet.

Julia- We have this same problem with our 13 year old. And since he has no cause and effect thinking, he doesn’t get how if he DOESN’T steal for one day, that I don’t have total trust in him again.

We have explained this ad nauseum with no effect.

We have never come up with an effective intervention or lesson, and it’s something that bothers me less, but is still a trauma trigger point for me.

Prayers and blessings to you as well.

]]> By: Holly http://special-needs.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/my-fas-child-can-t-stop-stealing/comment-page-1#comment-1000 Holly Fri, 02 Mar 2007 16:08:36 +0000 http://parenting-sp.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/03/02/my-fas-child-can-t-stop-stealing#comment-1000 You're a braver woman than I. I have an FASD child who is IN public school after years of homeschooling because I just can't be "on" for him and to him 24/7. He lies, steals, vandalizes school property, makes inappropriate sexual comments and gestures, reported me to his teacher for beating him after he got mad he had to sit in time-out for slugging his brother and drawing blood . . . you know. Oh, and he also set our house on fire - deliberately. He caused over $200,000 in damage and left us homeless for months. I need a break. There is no way he can be home all day every day anymore.<br /> <br /> You’re a braver woman than I. I have an FASD child who is IN public school after years of homeschooling because I just can’t be “on” for him and to him 24/7. He lies, steals, vandalizes school property, makes inappropriate sexual comments and gestures, reported me to his teacher for beating him after he got mad he had to sit in time-out for slugging his brother and drawing blood . . . you know. Oh, and he also set our house on fire – deliberately. He caused over $200,000 in damage and left us homeless for months. I need a break. There is no way he can be home all day every day anymore.

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