Comments on: My Teenage Daughter Is Honest With Her Psychiatrist http://special-needs.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/my-teenage-daughter-is-honest-with-her-p Contains information on various special needs from the unique perspective of the adoptive parents of special children. Fri, 12 Mar 2010 17:07:41 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: my2rubies http://special-needs.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/my-teenage-daughter-is-honest-with-her-p/comment-page-1#comment-643 my2rubies Sun, 20 Jan 2008 01:03:37 +0000 http://parenting-sp.www.adoptionblogs.com/2008/01/17/my-teenage-daughter-is-honest-with-her-p#comment-643 Good for her! <br /> <br /> Perhaps you can help her learn to identify the triggers. Encourage her to come to you first. I've had great success with the with my son with anger issues. He's feels it coming on and comes to me to ask for help. Then we work against the "ingraining" that you fear by giving him positive experiences to ingrain in his brain and slowly but surely replace those negative ones.<br /> <br /> Good luck! Good for her!

Perhaps you can help her learn to identify the triggers. Encourage her to come to you first. I’ve had great success with the with my son with anger issues. He’s feels it coming on and comes to me to ask for help. Then we work against the “ingraining” that you fear by giving him positive experiences to ingrain in his brain and slowly but surely replace those negative ones.

Good luck!

]]> By: condo-mom http://special-needs.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/my-teenage-daughter-is-honest-with-her-p/comment-page-1#comment-642 condo-mom Fri, 18 Jan 2008 07:29:03 +0000 http://parenting-sp.www.adoptionblogs.com/2008/01/17/my-teenage-daughter-is-honest-with-her-p#comment-642 My daughter is not on any medication and does not see a psychiatrist. However, we have honest talks like this quite often. She will readily discuss her impulses (to hit, to take, etc.) but I'm afraid "admit" would be too strong a word. To "admit" sounds as though she feels and understands the wrongness of such actions. She discusses events as though they simply Happen to her, not as if she makes Choices and exerts Control over events. She will easily agree that she shouldn't take things, or hurt a sibling, or whatever, but again the tone is one of "Mistakes Were Made." I'm not sure this level of "honesty" is going to get her too far in the real world, unless she's heading up public relations for some major government agency.<br /> <br /> Also, she seems at a loss when asked what other options she had in a given situation. Which I suppose is a consistent line of thought -- if things simply (in her mind) happen TO her, then she doesn't have (or feel she has) many, or any, viable alternatives open to her.<br /> <br /> So I am both Happy to have these little discussions, and Discouraged by the lack of progress they indicate. She is nothing if not consistent -- though perhaps static is the word I want? -- Rachel<br /> My daughter is not on any medication and does not see a psychiatrist. However, we have honest talks like this quite often. She will readily discuss her impulses (to hit, to take, etc.) but I’m afraid “admit” would be too strong a word. To “admit” sounds as though she feels and understands the wrongness of such actions. She discusses events as though they simply Happen to her, not as if she makes Choices and exerts Control over events. She will easily agree that she shouldn’t take things, or hurt a sibling, or whatever, but again the tone is one of “Mistakes Were Made.” I’m not sure this level of “honesty” is going to get her too far in the real world, unless she’s heading up public relations for some major government agency.

Also, she seems at a loss when asked what other options she had in a given situation. Which I suppose is a consistent line of thought — if things simply (in her mind) happen TO her, then she doesn’t have (or feel she has) many, or any, viable alternatives open to her.

So I am both Happy to have these little discussions, and Discouraged by the lack of progress they indicate. She is nothing if not consistent — though perhaps static is the word I want? — Rachel

]]> By: Marie Stroughter http://special-needs.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/my-teenage-daughter-is-honest-with-her-p/comment-page-1#comment-641 Marie Stroughter Fri, 18 Jan 2008 04:50:54 +0000 http://parenting-sp.www.adoptionblogs.com/2008/01/17/my-teenage-daughter-is-honest-with-her-p#comment-641 That was a big step for Lyn! That was a big step for Lyn!

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