Do your older adopted children ever make you feel like you are screwed if you do or screwed if you don’t? Because that is exactly how I felt last night. My butt was chewed off because we refused to “loan” a large amount of money, and for the tone I used a week prior to that, when I also declined a request for a sum of money. About 18 months ago, I was chewed up and spit out for all the help I had given because it apparently wasn’t given correctly.

You know, we still have eight children at home who we are supporting. Super Dad informed them that he had been working 60 hours a week in order to get some bills paid off. Alas, that wasn’t good cause, and somehow it was turned around into being my fault. I have noticed that becoming a common theme. I informed them that I too, was working as many hours as I could get at the post office.

The conversation began with, “I guess you probably figured out that I was upset with you since I haven’t called you in over a month.” You know, when I am wrong, I am the first person to admit it. Therefore, when I am accused of something I didn’t do, I expect people to believe me when I deny it. However, that was not the case here; I was tried and found guilty behind my back.

If you want to give me a list of offenses that I committed which hurt your feelings, then I guess you should listen to my list. Only I didn’t hold my list against you. I put them aside as unimportant and considered the larger picture.

Finally, after our discussion was getting nowhere, Super Dad took the phone and had a talk with her. About 30 minutes later, he brought the phone back to me so she could apologize. Only every apology was qualified with, “If this is what you meant,” statements.

Well, I didn’t bring it up today because it is Christmas and I wanted everyone to enjoy the day, including me. However, I did print up a list of our current debt and monthly payments. Maybe it will help them to see how much we owe and how much money we need each month to pay our bills.