Recently a friend and I were sharing embarrassing moments in public caused by our adopted special needs children. Some of the coping skills our children learned during the years of neglect and abuse can certainly cause questioning glances and rude comments.
Our teenager, Lane, feels embarrassed every time our four-year-old has a meltdown in public. He seems thoroughly disgusted by the fact that she does not embarrass me with this behavior. I’ve explained to him that I do not control her behavior, she does, and therefore I do not need to “own” her embarrassment.
However, I have been very embarrassed. When we were fairly new foster parents, our son Lane saw our foster child eating out of a garbage can at a hockey game. Lane was probably seven. He walked to the bottom of the bleachers, which were filled with people and yelled, “MOM, Lyn is eating out of the garbage can.”
One summer I signed all of the children up for swimming lessons. I had bought the girls swimming suits that had the little skirts that fit over the bottoms. Apparently, one of the girls couldn’t find the bottoms to her swimming suit. Instead of asking for my advice or help, instead of wearing her underwear, she chose to wear just the skirt into the pool. I happened to notice when I saw her riding a noodle. I sent her to the locker room to change and she had to watch everyone else swim.
My friend shared that one of her most embarrassing moments was when she was at McDonald’s with the moms from her Bible study group. One of the moms pointed out that her son was on the floor eating what the other children, including the babies, had dropped. Of course, the other children were playing on the slides and climbing.
Another friend received a call from the corner gas station informing her that her daughter was there and she needed to come and get her. When she walked in, everyone was staring daggers at her. The cashier informed my friend that they knew she hadn’t fed her child. They had fixed her a sandwich, given her a soda, and thought about calling the police. Her daughter was grinning from ear to ear while munching her sandwich.
Do you have some really embarrassing moments that you would like to share with us. If we couldn’t laugh about these things, we would probably all go crazy. So go ahead and get it off your chest, so we can laugh too.
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