Comments on: Time-Out Vs. Time-In http://special-needs.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/time-out-vs-time-in Contains information on various special needs from the unique perspective of the adoptive parents of special children. Thu, 15 Oct 2009 23:27:18 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: megamom http://special-needs.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/time-out-vs-time-in/comment-page-1#comment-1592 megamom Tue, 24 Feb 2009 04:18:30 +0000 http://parenting-sp.www.adoptionblogs.com/2008/10/20/time-out-vs-time-in#comment-1592 We are big believers of the Time-in approach. Gives me time to talk with the child and find out what is really going on in their head. When we did use the time-out approach we ended up with more raging and broken items. Live and Learn, I say. We are big believers of the Time-in approach. Gives me time to talk with the child and find out what is really going on in their head. When we did use the time-out approach we ended up with more raging and broken items. Live and Learn, I say.

]]> By: my3boys http://special-needs.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/time-out-vs-time-in/comment-page-1#comment-1591 my3boys Thu, 23 Oct 2008 13:05:36 +0000 http://parenting-sp.www.adoptionblogs.com/2008/10/20/time-out-vs-time-in#comment-1591 I like this idea but no sure it would really help. Our house is my Second Child's 5th home (First his birth parents who loved him, then grandparents who loved him, then uncle’s who burned and neglected him, then an orphanage who loved him, then with us, who love him). <br /> <br /> When is gets upset with me it’s so hard on him. He refuses to wear any cloths I have bought for him and often goes to sleep naked under the bed (Because I bought the bed for him too) The poor kid. He stands there crying, I try to comfort him but he pushes me away so I stand there telling him that I love him, that he is allowed to be mad at me and I will still love him. <br /> <br /> But he usually tries to run off and be alone. I have started to allow this, hoping that he will feel safer this way. Usually the next day he is fine and asks to spend time with me, which I happily do. I have started to make sure that he gets more one-on-one time then the others for he seems to need it.<br /> <br /> If I was to try this I’m not sure he would remain near me. I feel that he will try and run off to be alone. Is it wrong for him to be alone? <br /> I like this idea but no sure it would really help. Our house is my Second Child’s 5th home (First his birth parents who loved him, then grandparents who loved him, then uncle’s who burned and neglected him, then an orphanage who loved him, then with us, who love him).

When is gets upset with me it’s so hard on him. He refuses to wear any cloths I have bought for him and often goes to sleep naked under the bed (Because I bought the bed for him too) The poor kid. He stands there crying, I try to comfort him but he pushes me away so I stand there telling him that I love him, that he is allowed to be mad at me and I will still love him.

But he usually tries to run off and be alone. I have started to allow this, hoping that he will feel safer this way. Usually the next day he is fine and asks to spend time with me, which I happily do. I have started to make sure that he gets more one-on-one time then the others for he seems to need it.

If I was to try this I’m not sure he would remain near me. I feel that he will try and run off to be alone. Is it wrong for him to be alone?

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