Our kids are different. That’s why I’m always surprised to read on these blogs consequences consequences consequences. You really need to get beyond the behavior into the underlying emotion al issues with this child. Why is the child lying? Are they afraid to tell you the truth? Why?

But then go deeper than that. Why is the child having so much difficulty with the schoolwork? Is she insecure? Is it realistic to leave a child alone to do all their school by herself when she’s proven over and over that she’s not able to handle that responsibility. Yet. Doesn’t mean she never will be. She’s just telling you that she’s not ready yet.

I “read” my sons hidden messages to me regarding some difficulty he was having at school. We took a few steps back, together, and he’s now vaulted ahead. His teacher today even acknowledged it. I’m lucky to have developed a relationship with him where he’s very comfortable and is learning very well with my gentle and loving guidance. If I leave him on his own, he’d be sunk. I have no doubt that this won’t last forever so I don’t worry or fear for the future. He’s building up good positive experiences to replace some negative ones and he’ll be off his own before we know it. It’s work for me, for sure, but well worth it.